Can Anyone Help Me Save My Relationship?

Are you trying to save your relationship? Have you done everything you know how to do but still your relationship is on the rocks? Are you now asking yourself the question, "Can anyone help me save my relationship"?

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Well the answer is yes. There is someone who can help you save your relationship. And that person is you. You are the one who can save your relationship. It might not be easy but it could be a lot simpler than you think.

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First you need to figure out why your relationship is not working out in the first place. Is it mostly your fault or the fault of your partner? When did it start to deteriorate? Is it the result of an attitude of yours or something you said or did?

Are you too demanding or nagging? Or is it simply that the spark has gone out of your relationship because neither of you paid enough attention to nurturing your relationship. Maybe both of you just became complacent and comfortable with each other.

Once you figure out what caused your relationship to slip in the first place, then you can take some actions to correct things.

The Power of an Apology

If you determine that it was your fault that things fell apart, then apologize. A sincere apology goes a long ways in restoring trust and commitment. It convinces your partner that you really care about them and that you can admit your faults and that you are not willing to let pride stand in the way of your relationship.

But make sure you are apologizing for the right reasons. Don't accept blame that is not yours. But even if you are not to blame, you can apologize for not understanding the point of view of the other person and for allowing things to get to this point.

The Power of Communication

Another thing you can do is to keep talking to your partner. Don't allow communication to stop. Always keep talking to each other even when you're angry with each other.

Set aside some time when the two of you can sit down over a cup of coffee and talk calmly and quietly about why your relationship is going down hill. Don't get into an argument or try to lay blame. Tell each other how you are really feeling and be sure to listen to what the other person is saying without interrupting. Make sure to make eye contact and listen deeply.

Often you will find that the thing that is separating you is something very simple and easily corrected. It could be just a misunderstanding. But even if it is something more complicated, once you discover what it is, you can both then take the appropriate steps to set things right.

Can Anyone Help Me Save My Relationship?

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5 Tips for Saving a Broken Relationship

Relationships can be so complicated. And when relationships are broken, they can be so devastating. The reason is that God made us to be in relationships with each other. And we come to depend on those relationships more than anything else. When a relationship comes to an end it makes us feel incomplete and unattached. Our whole lives seem broken and out of control. It you are interested in saving a broken relationship, then here are a few guidelines to follow.

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Number One

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Never make the other person think that you are ending the relationship. Many people will do this to try to scare the other person into doing what they want them to do. This kind of tactic will only lead to the other person feeling that you will leave them on their own and it makes them feel insecure. Don't do or say anything to make the other person feel that you are about to end the relationship.

Number Two

Always keep the lines of communication open. This is very important. It just might be the most important thing of all. As long as there is communication between the two of you, there is hope. As long as you are talking to each other you can find a way to heal your relationship. When you continue to communicate you are letting the other person know that you respect them and their feelings and are willing to work things out. By continuing to talk to each other you are showing that you care about each other.

Number Three

Understand that relationships take work. Great relationships don't just happen. You have to work at it. The people you know who have great relationships are the ones who have really worked at it. There is no such thing as a relationship without problems. All relationships have bumps along the way but the really great ones are the ones where two people have decided that their love for each other is greater than their differences. Saving a broken relationship can take some work but it is absolutely possible to do it.

Number Four

The other person has a right to feel the way they do. Just because you don't see things the same as the other person doesn't mean that their feelings are not justified. If they feel hurt, there is a reason for that. Maybe the thing that is causing them to feel hurt wouldn't have caused you to be hurt, but that doesn't mean that they should not feel hurt about it. They are not the same as you and that is a good thing. We are all different and we all see things differently.

Number Five

Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. In other words, don't blow things out of proportion. Don't put too much emphasis on the little things. You will never agree totally on everything. If you are concerned about saving a broken relationship, then focus on the things that really matter, the positive things in your relationship. When you look at all the great things you have together, then the little things lose their importance.

5 Tips for Saving a Broken Relationship

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